This article is a series of Safe Cuckolding articles that I have prepared for couples who are not ready or simply don’t want to get into physical wife sharing.
With this article, you will be able to live and share your fantasies of cuckolding with your partner easily through role-playing games.
One of the simplest ways to share your fantasy with your wife or girlfriend is roleplaying. This method is completely safe physically and it can be also a great way to open up the subject if you are interested to pursue a physical sharing of your wife or girlfriend.
How to start the conversation?
Most women will enjoy an innocent role-playing game. However, you may not be sure how to start the conversation.
One of that I usually use is without explaining the story and just directly going into the role. You can act like you don’t know her and you are trying to seduce her or you can change your voice a bit.
Another common approach I like is the “dream I had.” Tell her that you saw her with a hot guy being naughty and you were turned on by it and not at all jealous. And look closely at her reaction, see if she is interested in the rest of the story. If she was then you can continue the story on that baseline or add branches the next time.
What if she judges me?
If your wife or girlfriend is a conservative type who may judge the game that you do in the bed then you can start by asking her about her past encounters or relationships that she had. I explained more about this at Listen to Her Stories About Ex-Boyfriends.
It is important to focus on her type of role-playing than yours. Remember if you want to experience a cuckold fantasy then the focus should be on her and in whatever way she comfortable with.
Another good approach is to declare the bedroom a judgment-free zone.
In order to have truly great sex, you must feel free to talk about your fantasies and desires without judgment. Before role-playing, make a pact with your partner that you’ll never laugh at each other‘s sexual performance, fantasies, or choices — and commit to keeping your sex life private. Don’t share explicit details, even with your closest girlfriends. Sex is vulnerable, and in order to fully explore it freely, we have to know that others will not be told about our proclivities. Once you have that guarantee out of the way, both of you will feel more comfortable leaning into your kinky sides.
Do I need to buy lots of costumes and toys?
Imagination is a powerful thing, so costumes in role-playing aren’t a requirement. If you’re broke or uninterested in wigs, hats, and costumes, go ahead and skip it. But if dressing up helps you get into “character,” go for it.
One of the easiest costumes for cuckolds can be a mask with a handsome guy’s face on it. In this way, if she is interested in sleeping with another man then she will enhance her imagination.
Dressing up isn’t required, but it can definitely make your scene feel more real. It can also be great fun.
1. Think about your Story
If you already have a sexy scenario in mind, you can skip ahead. But for beginners, Laurie Watson, a sex therapist in North Carolina, says a trick that always works for her clients is heading to a hotel bar and pretending to be strangers picking each other up for the first time—just make sure one of you reserves a room ahead of time. Then, there are always classic power dynamics to fall back on, like a cop and criminal or doctor and patient—take your pick.
2. Share your Story
Doesn’t matter which role-playing story you choose, your focus should be on her. You should mention how beautiful and sexy she is and how other men in the bar, office, class or whatever place that you imagine are after her. It is also possible to even act as different men in the same scenario who is after your wife.
It is worth mentioning to add details like a guy who is trying to hit on her, you notice the ring on her finger but you don’t care and want her anyway. If she needs, give some time to process this scenario. She may feel uncomfortable with the idea of cheating on you.
3. Where are your limits?
You need to know her limits first. As mentioned before she may not be comfortable with the idea of cheating first so you may need a different world where you two are not together. Or you are with her but you gave her a free hall pass or you are experiencing an open relationship in this scenario. The more you know about each other’s limits easier the story will go.
Before losing yourself in a character, be sure to let your partner know what you’re comfortable doing and what’s going too far, especially if you’re experimenting with a punishment scenario. If you get caught engaged in espionage (you dirty spy, you!), do you want a verbal reaming or a light spanking on the butt? The same goes for when you’re playing a role that triggers an emotional response. Let your partner know your limits, as well as you should know her limits.
This also helps if you want to know that your wife or girlfriend is actually comfortable with having a cuckolding fantasy or not. Because in all fairness you are just testing the water and this is just a fantasy so there is actually nothing serious to blame you.
4. Have FUN
After all this planning, it might feel like you’re about to audition for a role in Hollywood. If you break character and burst into laughter, don’t sweat it and move on.
People often feel silly and ridiculous when they start role-playing. Pushing past that self-judgment is crucial to getting to the fun stuff. Try throwing yourself into a role as though you were on stage, reading from a script.
But the most important commitment to make when role-playing is not to judge — yourself or your partner. It’s the key to opening the door to the many sexy characters that live within you both.
In conclusion, imagination is the key in easing the way in relationships through games like role-playing to dive into fantasies like cuckolding.
Let me know if these techniques work for you?
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