Definition – What’s Erotic Verbal Humiliation? Why verbal humiliation? How do I begin? How do you include verbal humiliation into your life?
We already discussed the definition of erotic and sexual Humiliation in cuckolding before. In this post, we are going to talk about Verbal Humiliation in cuckolding.
Definition – What’s Erotic Verbal Humiliation?
Erotic humiliation fetishes are the most popular among submissives. Verbal belittlement is a consensual psychological form of humiliation that creates a rise in excitement for both the top and the bottom. 
This form of humiliation is typically done in private and falls under the BDSM umbrella, meaning a safe word is always recommended. 
Though they are typically considered the same thing, humiliation and degradation are actually quite different. Humiliation affects an individual mentally—by name-calling a body part, or making fun of someone’s size. 
Cuckholding, for example, is a form of degradation which involves humiliation as well because it’s a more public act, where the world sees the individual as less than.
Sexual stimulation is often, but not always, the result of verbal humiliation. The power dynamics built up by two people can mature into a master/slave relationship, top/bottom, or a dominant/submissive. 
Humiliation play is also typically fostering a type of fetish. For example, with a foot fetish, the dominant may instruct that the submissive wash, clean, or massage the dominant’s feet while verbal humiliation is occurring. The two linked humiliating acts can cause arousal. 
On the website, Life on the Swingset, they explain that “Verbal humiliation can mean the use of words like slut or whore; being mocked, ridiculed or have appearance belittled; use of racial or ethnic slurs; asking permission to eat, to go to the bathroom or to have an orgasm; not allowing the sub to leave the dungeon or house; treated like a pet or an object; being treated or scolded like a child; made to use honorifics such as Master, Mistress, Sir, Ma’am or Daddy. 
An example would be using demeaning language with the sub either in forced feminization, a pet play or slave scene.” 
For each individual, these preferences may change but since it is something that the master implements into his/her professional world, s/he makes the rules (quite literally).
Why verbal humiliation?
Like with physical pain, humiliation is able to stimulate an area of the brain that also remembers social rewards. Since pleasure begins in the brain, the fantasy of verbal humiliation sparks something arousing in the mind when it’s brought into a scene. 
A former University of Toronto psychology student, David de Jong, found that 50 percent of women found talking during sex, particularly “talking dirty” to be “either strongly or extremely enjoyable.” 
Sexual humiliation can be a lifestyle or a BDSM scene. Role-play is a common type of humiliation, which is where language can provide a great environment for your scene. For some people, being inside of your mind is a great way to achieve an orgasm, especially when it’s accompanied by another fantasy or fetish. 
Humiliatrix, Betty Pickles describes it as “the same kind of anxiety rush you get from going on a roller coaster.” It’s sort of awful, but you love it. 
How do you include verbal humiliation into your life?
First, make sure everyone involved is consenting. Ego reduction is a way to achieve humiliation play. Begin with ease, don’t dive into calling your partner every awful name you can think of saying to them. Before you begin, also make sure to create a list of “off limit” phrases to ensure that everyone is comfortable. 
It’s difficult to explain what can be humiliating, or not, as it varies from each individual. One person’s humiliation fantasy may not be another’s. 
Some men find videos of hypnosis and verbal humiliation enough for their erotic needs. This is a form of sexual role-play in the BDSM scene and can include financial domination or simply cashing in for custom videos.
How do I begin?
I would suggest starting with small talk—quick phrases, humiliating words—just test the waters in the beginning. If you would like, text your partner or send them short videos to understand your language better before bringing it into the bedroom. 
A way to begin erotic humiliation is to compliment them while embracing them. Like my suggested phrase above—you are stating that they do give you please and they do satisfy you, but their satisfaction is unnecessary. 
Basic dirty talk can also be implemented into the scene. Cussing and calling body parts derogatory terms is a way to turn on a submissive. A phrase like: “You’re my toy and my satisfaction is all that matters,” is an easy way, not the so-humiliating way to open up the dialogue. 
Once you understand what your partner wants, you can begin to find words and phrases that turn them on. Moreover, what do you want? It’s important to also arouse yourself, by the way, the words sound in your mouth. 
Talking, or scolding, your submissive like a child or commanding them to confirm your actions are various ways to be experimental with arousal via language. 
Another important characteristic is how you deliver the sentence. Whispering, yelling, growling, laughing, and angrily talking to them can change the tone of the entire scene. For many submissives, laughing at their body or making fun of their performance is a great way to give them what they want. Like anything, verbal humiliation takes practice. 
Use a thesaurus, learn some phrases, and seek out erotic verbal humiliation. Always make sure to pick up on any cues from a submissive and gauge reactions while also creating a comfort level for yourself. 
Don’t cross any boundaries and remember to establish a safe word and proper trust between one another. The more enjoyable you find verbal humiliation, the more humiliating it will be. When you think, or worry, too much about what should be said, you lose the freedom of speaking fluidly. You’re going to stumble around at first; remember to laugh at yourself, too. 
Note: Some parts are modified for the purposed of the Cuckold Club.
 By S. Nicole Lane on February 7, 2018, Helloflo: https://helloflo.com/verbal-humiliation-play-and-why-it-turns-us-on/
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