How to start controlling your man with Chastity?

How to start controlling your man with Chastity? Chastity rules for begginers, Chastity devices, Sexual arousal, Humiliation, extra Sissy notes, and more.

How to start controlling your man with Chastity
How to start controlling your man with Chastity?

Chastity Rules

Basic Rules for beginners. The key is to be very strict and follow every rule.

Take control of his orgasms

  • He must wear a chastity device 24/7.
  • You should lock his chastity cage and only you should be the “KeyHolder”. You can also use a numeric padlock.
  • Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing.
  • Emphasize that he will never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm OR erection! without your permission.
  • He must experience ruined orgasms. This emphasizes your control and stimulates his frustration.
  • He may only cum when wearing a buttplug and your panties. You may also gag him.
  • Peg him, make him cum like a real sissy (Read more: Pegging)
  • Milk his prostate (Read more: Milking)
  • Always restrain his hands (handcuffs or rope) when letting him out of his cage. Many guys will resist after an orgasm or take control when you edge/ruin them. (Read more: Edging, Ruined Orgasm)

Every time you let him cum, you must ruin him. After that you make him eat his cum. You can edge him and forbid him to orgasm. You have to learn him that he may not orgasm. If he does then you have to make him eat his cum.
Ruined -> Eat it
Accidently -> Eat it

Only tease and edge! Edge every day!

Chastity devices

  • Make him buy secure permanent devices like the jailbird, holy trainer, or metal cages with urethra plugs. Make sure you get the right size so he cannot escape. You can make many devices escape-proof with medical glue. The best option is a PA. It is recommended to glue his foreskin with superglue so he won’t attempt to escape. This does not damage the skin but lays a sticky layer for 1 week.
  • The best devices can be worn 24/7 and only need cleaning every other day. He can clean it in the shower by putting soap in his cage and applying a full jet of the shower head right in the cage. it will clean his penis thoroughly. No need to take him out
  • Shaving can perfectly be done while wearing the device. Just move it a bit to reach the hard-to-reach spots.
  • If he has to clean his penis manually for a reason. Do it under supervision or tell him that only you may touch his penis. He is not allowed to play by himself.
  • Draw your name on his dick before putting him in the cage. That way you can check if he cheated or not!

For him, it is mind-boggling not touching a body part for over a month when he used to touch it every hour.

Read more: How to Choose the Right Chastity Cage for Men?

Get into his head!

  • Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.
  • Tease him with his fantasies whenever possible.
  • Make him wear your panties all the time. Skirts, stockings, socks everything to make him remember he’s your slut at work or wherever he goes.
  • Make him sign these rules without letting him read it. He may experience the joy of chastity.
  • He must promise he will follow the rules strictly. You may threaten to leave him if he doesn’t. He will make up his mind soon enough.
  • Explain to him that he will only receive prostate orgasm. Sissies should cum like real girls.
  • Make him shave his WHOLE body! Nothing better than feeling a soft body next to you in bed at night. It will grow back so he has to maintain it.

You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.

  • Taunt him. Dress sexy
  • Talk sexy and dirty to him.
  • Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.
  • Fondle him or let him fondle you.
  • Make him wear a buttplug or prostate massager every time you go out.
  • Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
  • Make him give you orgasms frequently.
  • Edge him (Read more: Edging)
  • Milk his prostate (Read more: Milking)

Make him do something humiliating and learn when he will do anything for you.

  • Tease him to the edge then command the most humiliating activities. He will do them.
  • Make him wear a butt-plug for a time.
  • Train him to submit to your strapon.
  • Make him be naked when you are not.
  • Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum after your ruin his orgasm no matter where it is deposited. Sit on his face after a creampie or feed him off your hand or french kiss him!

No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to taunt him.

  • Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).
  • Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.
  • Make him shop for lingerie or toys for you.
  • Leave notes with instructions like: “I want to see you caged and plugged with these when I get home”

Control your own feelings of guilt

  • He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your permission.
  • If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it!
  • Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one.
  • Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

Extra sissy rules:

  • A sissy must wear panties. He does not own any male underwear. Take away his underwear and replace it.
  • A sissy may wear a bra and pink or brightly colored tights or leggings. Leggings and nylon are mandatory!
  • A sissy must sleep in lingerie. If he does not have any, he must sleep naked.
  • When alone, a sissy must dress as a girl. Good sissies wear lipstick while alone.
  • A sissy always keeps himself free of facial hair and is otherwise well groomed. He must always be presentable, and ready to please.
  • Good sissies shave their legs
  • A sissy must never touch himself sexually without explicit permission from his Master or from his Muse
  • A sissy must wear as many lovely pink girly things as possible
  • Sissy must be in panties and a bra minimum at all times.
  • Sissy must keep shaved clean below the neck at all times.
  • A slave is not to masturbate without permission, and when permission is given, it must be done in a slutty humiliating sissy way that reinforces my position.

Some text to make him horny:

‘I love thinking about your cock in that cage
I’m thinking about you inside me right now, maybe I’ll let you tonight
Fancy a blow job? He replies yes. Shame you’ve got that cage on.
How are you going to convince me to unlock you tonight honey?
I’m really horny. Come and give me an orgasm, at least one of them might as well
a list of tasks with ‘unlock cock’ as the final one lol

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